When we talk about memories we are referring to things happened in the past that affected us directly or indirectly, and this is why they accompanied us to the future where we call them memories. There are two types of memories, the one that we cherish and the one that we despise
Human being is all about memories because without memories we can’t identify or evaluate our life experiences on different discipline, and our life will be emptied from its meanings. If we took a look at the singular word “Memory” it could be categorized as good or bad but it doesn’t hold the duality in its nature like any other word in the dictionary, but when we look at the totality of memories it should hold the contradiction in its definition, so here the singular and plural diverge or contradict and we will come to that at a later stage.
If we tries to organize our memories in a tree, the whole definition from emotional state point of view will be different, because good memory could give birth to bad memory and the antithesis of this assumption is also true, on the other hand there is always a possibility to transcend our emotional status toward one memory based on the consequent memory or direct and indirect affect to our emotional status toward that memory.
Now how do we evaluate one memory if it is emotionally positive or negative? The simple answer will be it is totally dependent on how do we feel toward that memory. Memories happens in the past and to evaluate the magnitude of feelings toward that memory is extremely hard if it is not impossible because human being tend to forget the magnitude of pain and happiness as the pregnant woman forget the magnitude of pain that she went through to deliver, and here I compared the physical pain as they are tend to share the same attributes to be considered as memories. The way I see it when it comes to evaluating memories it is being totally based on what we want to be the emotional outcome of that memory or the collective of memories, while in a way or memories are being coupled with our emotional state at the time of evaluation, so it is totally up to us to define the outcome of our own memories and this could be related to how we perceive such an experiences which is considered to be our memories.
Usually I see pessimist people are almost deficient of good memories while optimistic people are almost deficient of bad memories, and this is what lead me to write this article, now I’m setting writing this article in relaxing atmosphere which includes ambient light and progressive Jazz in the background whispers to my ear of relaxing anthems, and when I’m passing through the line of my memories all the used to be bad and used to be good memories speaks to me in a very relaxing way it’s like all the conflicting memories got united in very harmonic way paving the way to say that I don’t have a bad memories.
Back again to our subject, and the question is could we live our life under the captivity of our emotional state toward our memories, and the way I see it most people do. Memories has its own way to keep haunting us the good and the bad always comes in the moments of emptiness, solitude and void, for the simple reason that our brains wired to work all day long and when we try to relax, lay back and empty our brains, glimpses of our memories start passing by forcing us to think about the past and the long forgotten memories which we thought that we broke free from its enslavement and captivity. It’s funny and amazing how our brains works.
Every memory symbolizes an event or series of events that we went through during our life, while the events or series of events dissolves what remains of it is scattered fragments, pictures, words, feelings mixed and milted together to create what we call a memory, and the most important thing that stuck with us is our emotional state toward that fragments, and when the events become a memory the first thing that we recall is that emotional state which in a way symbolizes the fragments and shattered pictures, after that our current emotional state well emphasize the past or challenge it, which either way leads to the birth of new emotional state toward that memory and to be engraved instead of the past one.
If you think about our emotional state toward our memories they will never be the same and couldn’t be the same for every time we recall it, sometimes we will feel happy, other times we will be sad and sometimes we will be indifferent. What makes the equilibrium in our emotional state toward memories is emotional symbols, and what I mean by that is that we need to materialize our emotions in a way that it could be cognized by us and what’s better than symbols; it’s quite simple for the human mind. The only thing that we need to alter or change is our perception toward nouns and adjectives in way that we make them objects instead of subjects, then we impose the subject of our emotional state on that object and that’s about it, funny isn’t it. So if we are talking about the hate outcome of some memory what we do is that we attach the hate to the object that we hate and embodies our definitions and memories that created such an outcome in that object, so the next time we recall the object we recall the subject that we imposed on it, along with the related memories which contains the object. This applies to good and bad memories.
When it comes to memories symbolizing those help in visualizing and perceiving them, in a way it is easier to our brain to categorize search and retrieve them accordingly. Finally it’s up to us how to perceive and memorize our memories, and what symbols will they convey, last but not least we influence our emotional state toward that memories.